I saw this statement posted on a friend's Facebook status this week and I don't know where it came from, but it sure does hit home for me...
"There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, but getting back up is living."
I'm the type of person that, if I'm not careful, can let one negative thing someone says ruin my day....even if it's someone I really don't know. I've realized that I'm in a much healthier place in my life when I don't spend a lot of time with those who are negative or cause drama and, instead, focus on those who make me happy and bring out the best in me. I don't necessarily believe that people plan to be negative or go around looking to create or cause problems (although some probably do), but there are people that just seem to create and stir up tension wherever they go, maybe without even realizing it. Do you know what I'm talking about?? I think because I'm a people pleaser and really want people to like me, I know many times I have cared too much about what others think of me and have spent too much time trying to meet others expectations of me. It's not to say I don't like these people, but I've learned that sometimes the best thing to do is love them and pray for them, but keep a safe distance. I know I'm not going to make everyone happy. It's just not possible, whether it be in my business or my personal life, to please every single person I come in contact with and I know that, but I want to be careful to not allow other people's grumpiness (for lack of a better word) or negativity to impact my attitude as well. Not only do I not want to spend a lot of time around people that bring me down, I don't want to be one of those who bring others down either. I want to be the kind of person that is positive and uplifting and laughs at life. I have so many people in my life that, after being around them, I feel I'm a better person for it....
*My husband....he makes me want to be a better person because of who he is. He encourages me, laughs with (and at) me and doesn't allow the stresses of life to get him down. I always look forward to him coming home at night because I enjoy being with him.
*My brothers and their families....they make me laugh a lot and I always look forward to our times together. Even when we may disagree with each other, we have a mutual respect and care deeply for each other.
*My best friend of 25 years, Kerri...she is one of the most positive people and I always know I can call her when I need a listening ear. Not only does she listen, but she always has the right words to say and when I finish talking with her, I always feel encouraged and uplifted. We now get to work together too, which I love!!
*Our friends Rich and Jewell....they are wonderful people who are so in love with each other and God. Even after many years of marriage and even now in retirement, they love being together and have taken Scott and I in. We love spending time with them because they are such a positive influence on us and our marriage. Their love for each other makes me want to be a better wife.
*My mother in law....she is a wonderful, caring lady who, from the first time I met her, made me feel welcome in the family and loved. She's been someone I know I can count on to call me at least once a week to check in on me and see how things are going. I have no doubt God knew that she was exactly what I needed in a mother in law and I hope that someday I can be half the mother in law that she is:)
This list could go on and on, but these are just some examples of some of the people who I believe bring out the best in me and make me want to be a better person because of who they are and how they live. So, the number 3 thing I've learned from the past in my countdown to 40 is that if I spend a lot of time with people who are negative and/or always causing tension, eventually it's going to bring me down....but surrounding myself with positive, loving, uplifting people makes me want to be a better person! Negative people breed negativity...positive people breed postivity! God, help me to be the kind of person that, if I weren't me, I would want to be around:):):):)